So, I crush my BF in most games...

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Blatantly not trying to win, or taking silly risks with your win, in an attempt to show off in some other way is really fucking annoying as it undermines your competitors victory and efforts.

I completely agree.

You say you're bisexual. How does your boyfriend feel about this? Is it weird to him that you still are attracted to women?

Have you come out to your friends and family? It seems like it might be even harder to be bisexual than gay in this respect... I mean, you could more or less happily go about life having sex that you enjoy, without upsetting the status quo. Of course you'd be hiding a side of yourself, but coming out almost seems like an unnecessary risk.

Is there a top and bottom in your relationship?

Since you are still into girls, and a relationship with a girl is a future possibility, are you at all worried that your current relationship probably excludes you from a large swath of the female dating pool? Would you hide this relationship? Man.. bisexuality seems complicated...

Are you trolling us?

Oh, and about the games... your boyfriend sounds like he's being a little bitch. Expecting you to handicap yourself is unreasonable. Agreeing to be taught, but throwing a fit when you don't adhere to the lessons and you're called out on it is unreasonable. Does this sort of behavior pop up outside of games? Even if it doesn't, this seems like a bad sign for the future.

He thinks its incredibly weird that I still like women! In fact, lots of gay guys think that bisexuals are simply in denial. Most gays and straights I feel actually think its one or the other...but I just dont see that to be the case. Not to sound elitiest or anything, but I actually dont see gender at all, just that each has their advantages and disadvantages and i happen to like both. I like the feel of muscle, but I like the squish too. Women smell nicer, but man musk is amazing. I would say that I lean more towards guys though...but just barely...and the reason is to some of your other questions.

Re coming out: Answered just now, but regarding the unnecessary risk part...yeah I can see that. If I broke up with my bf over something, then found a girl i liked, then made a new friend, im not sure when (if) I'd tell the friend I also was attracted to guys. Idk, its really hard to say. Once I choose to be a with a guy for awhile though, theres really no hiding it.

Regarding just choosing to be with girls, I couldnt. There are a few things that define me, and one is an insatiable curiosity. This ties into how I get enjoyment from games as well, but just on this topic...I wouldnt be able to NOT experience it. In fact, in my current relationship with my bf, we've talked about satisfying my need for a girl as well. The result isnt a poly-amorous or open relationship, but hes willing to let me have a fix when I need it. I guess what I'm trying to say here, is that I found out one day that I wanted to see what it was like, and after I realized that there was no stopping it. I just need both now.

Is there a top and bottom? Yes, Im the bottom. Im also the submissive. Ill leave that at that for now, but its very common for people who typically are very dominate and leader-like to want to give all that control up in the bedroom.

If this relationship failed, would I tell a future gf about it? Yeah, probably. I honestly wouldnt want to be with someone that wasnt ok with that. I mean, I might hide it if I just wanted sex one night with some unknown, but ultimately I couldnt be with someone that would be annoyed by it. I mean, i can see some fear of "oh no, all gays have aids!," and the disease can stay hidden for months, but irrational people just dont do it for me. (PS i like nerdy girls the most, followed by asians and redheads)

Am I trolling? Nah, I chose this thread to make it blatant though because it would give my concern a little more traffic.

Regarding his behavior: I dont mean to imply that he expects me to handicap myself, that was just a possible alternative that might allow me to still play. It doesnt really happen elsewhere, mainly because gaming and game theory is one of the few realms I feel I'm significantly better/smarter at then the standard person. Not just that, but I feel I can be confident about them. Like, in most things, the more you know about something the less you find you actually know. But with games, we have a small universe with simple enough rules and mechanics that more knowledge actually does allow confidence in your decision making. I'd go so far as to say I'm actually a different person when playing. (I have been worried about our future too btw, but until i actually see this kind of thing elsewhere and we fail to work through it then Im gonna stick with it).

I like to think of it this way. There are challenges for which there is 1 and only 1 result that you must achieve. And there are challenges for which a whole rainbow of outcomes are possible(acceptable).

And a game for me suggests that winning and losing isn't much of a distinction at all.

Dont get it.

Some people play because they enjoy the game. Once they realise you are exceptionally better than them all enjoyment is removed, but that doesn't mean they care about the game enough to study it. I don't see this as being a big issue unless games are super imprtant to you and your partner must share this.

It is and it isnt. I love playing games, and must do so, but I dont necessarily have to play with him. I have plenty of places to go for a challenge regarding board games.

I am pretty damn competitive, but I often don't care about winning or losing. Obviously winning is preferred, but I'm more interested in having an enjoyable game. For me, that means competitive, but good spirited opponents. In a friendly game, I do enjoy when people have fun and go for "style points" if it doesn't get out of hand and turn the game into a farce. But what irks me is when people don't even try. Either don't play, or give a solid effort. The worst is when it's obviously a defense mechanism because they've realized they are below average, and if they lose, everyone knows they weren't really trying.

The "dont try thing", I understand. The rest I dont get at all. Like...say we were playing taboo. The funniest way to get the person to say the word is cool, but if an alternative way would have gotten a faster response AND they knew this...then that makes me go wtf.