RU ever Just Angry

[boost]

i think this is common amongst most people. though few realise the cause of their anger. most see it as being caused by the external factors (life/work/family situation etc) rather than accepting that the cause might be inside them. nice post.

ya, I started to realize the root of my anger in the last few years. Being able to recognize the root of your grumpiness is the first step in addressing it. I think a big mistake people make when trying to address their anger issues is that they suppress the feeling instead of accepting that its there, and rationally exploring it. When you suppress, it just builds up, and you will blow up eventually (serenity now!). When you rationally explore negative thoughts you normally find that it traces back to the things d0zer mentioned.. being depressed, overtired, unproductive, etc. You are almost always externalizing your own failures, and this causes you to aim all that negativity towards others.

On the next level, recognizing that everyone is going through the same shit, and that almost no one has had this revelation of sorts that we are talking about, makes dealing with others far easier. Instead of responding to their negativity with your own negativity, you can just realize that they are likely externalizing their displeasure with themselves. Being able to see that the root of their anger isn't really something you've done makes it far easier to just brush it off and move on.

[Monty3038]

ya, I started to realize the root of my anger in the last few years. Being able to recognize the root of your grumpiness is the first step in addressing it. I think a big mistake people make when trying to address their anger issues is that they suppress the feeling instead of accepting that its there, and rationally exploring it. When you suppress, it just builds up, and you will blow up eventually (serenity now!). When you rationally explore negative thoughts you normally find that it traces back to the things d0zer mentioned.. being depressed, overtired, unproductive, etc. You are almost always externalizing your own failures, and this causes you to aim all that negativity towards others.

On the next level, recognizing that everyone is going through the same shit, and that almost no one has had this revelation of sorts that we are talking about, makes dealing with others far easier. Instead of responding to their negativity with your own negativity, you can just realize that they are likely externalizing their displeasure with themselves. Being able to see that the root of their anger isn't really something you've done makes it far easier to just brush it off and move on.

Nice post Boost... one day I hope to be mature enough to get to this point, for now though I'm just pissed.