unmotivated in life and school

[Reidak]

I'll book an appointment tomorrow to see my gp

[Reidak]

make that later today

[flomo]

you would feel better if you posted pics of hot chicks in various commune threads

and most of us would love you for it


and that volunteering suggestion is a good idea too
and maybe working out

go shjower, get dressed and go out

[Warpe]

Reidak,

My previous post was kind of harsh but not exactly helpful. I doubt much is going to be accomplished by telling you to stop whining. You're experiencing what a lot of people around your age go through - but how you deal with it is what is going to make all the difference.

There's lots of babble on the intertubes about finding one's life purpose, getting motivated, etc., many religious based or from people with dubious qualifications, but I did find a British site that has some useful, non-religious information.

Go here: http://www.younglivesuk.com/frameset.htm and download some or all of these these pdfs.

- Choosing a Direction in Life
- Creating a Way of Life
- Dealing with Problems
- Developing Your Mind & Emotions
- Feeling Good about Yourself
- Effective Action
- Learning to Learn
- Working with People
- Pushing Your Limits
- Personal Relationships

I hope you'll find them helpful.

GL

[Warpe]

Also, read this:

http://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-.../dp/0671708635

[Ash256]

Reidak, I swear you're my identical twin.

How much money do you have?

Also I suggest that as an exercise you look around your surroundings for the things that your subconscious normally blocks out; this opens up your mind a bit.

[wesrman]

The important thing is to realize that its not just you that feels like this and that its gonna get better.

I personally have to fight feeling depressed at least once a month. It would consume me if i let it, but it usually goes away aftyer a few days. Most times i realize that i blew the whole thing out of proportion and im confused afterwards as to why i made such a big deal out of it in the first place.

The truth is that life kind of sucks, and you're prolly never going to feel fully fullfilled and happy with it, but this doesnt mean you cant enjoy it. The thing is to not let your feelings get the best of you, and do the best you can to not dwell on it. In other words, try to not get too high when things are going good, and to not get too low when things are going bad.

Also try not to compare yourself to others (something i used to do a lot). Just because it looks like someone has the perfect life or seems happy and fullfilled all the time doesnt mean they are. Everyone battles some kind of depression or problems at one time or another.

Oh ya and try getting some sun and or vitamin D like i said before.

[BankItDrew]

The important thing is to realize that its not just you that feels like this and that its gonna get better.

I personally have to fight feeling depressed at least once a month. It would consume me if i let it, but it usually goes away aftyer a few days. Most times i realize that i blew the whole thing out of proportion and im confused afterwards as to why i made such a big deal out of it in the first place.

The truth is that life kind of sucks, and you're prolly never going to feel fully fullfilled and happy with it, but this doesnt mean you cant enjoy it. The thing is to not let your feelings get the best of you, and do the best you can to not dwell on it. In other words, try to not get too high when things are going good, and to not get too low when things are going bad.

Also try not to compare yourself to others (something i used to do a lot). Just because it looks like someone has the perfect life or seems happy and fullfilled all the time doesnt mean they are. Everyone battles some kind of depression or problems at one time or another.

Oh ya and try getting some sun and or vitamin D like i said before.

you should edit this post by adding some of your amazing women jpg's and i'll nominate this as POTY

[bode]

this thread is 2 pages too long. while there is some good advice in here, if you are serious about it you just need to go see a doctor. whining to an internet forum isn't going to help anything.

[Ash256]

this thread is 2 pages too long. while there is some good advice in here, if you are serious about it you just need to go see a doctor. whining to an internet forum isn't going to help anything.

Disagree. All a doctor's going to do is give you opiates, whereas a good bit of soul-searching & advice from comrades helps with the underlying problem rather than just the symptoms.

[zook]

this thread is 2 pages too long. while there is some good advice in here, if you are serious about it you just need to go see a doctor. whining to an internet forum isn't going to help anything.

Disagree. All a doctor's going to do is give you opiates, whereas a good bit of soul-searching & advice from comrades helps with the underlying problem rather than just the symptoms.

Ummm, if you think doctors prescribe opiates for depression you really don't know what you're talking about. And millions of people taking antidepressants would disagree that soul-searching and advice can substitute for drugs. I would say that they're overprescribed but that doesn't mean they aren't incredibly helpful.

[wesrman]

Id rather be depressed than take pills that make me happy for the rest of my life. Dealing with the issues is better than helping the symptoms imo.

[zook]

Id rather be depressed than take pills that make me happy for the rest of my life. Dealing with the issues is better than helping the symptoms imo.

lol your brain is the issue, it's a disease

[Galapogos]

I heard a cool line today: Despair = suffering without meaning.

Basically, if you are not doing something that has meaning, it contributes to the spot you find yourself in.

Put meaning into your life. If you hate your schooling, do something that will have meaning to you. If you hate what you're taking now, you're REALLY gonna hate where it takes you after school.

You're young, experience life right now. Audit some courses at your school that have nothing to do with yours. Maybe something will jump at you as your goal. Try different jobs. Etc etc...

[wesrman]

Id rather be depressed than take pills that make me happy for the rest of my life. Dealing with the issues is better than helping the symptoms imo.

lol your brain is the issue, it's a disease

Not always. It depends on the situation.

[Ragnar4]

There is a place called the "hole" that people who are actually, really, chemically unbalanced and depressed experience.

The problem is, we're too quick to medicate at the most immediate signs of boredom, and not after a serious example of true depression.

As long as Reidak does what is needed to get right, and changes, I'm happy for him.

[bode]

this thread is 2 pages too long. while there is some good advice in here, if you are serious about it you just need to go see a doctor. whining to an internet forum isn't going to help anything.

Disagree. All a doctor's going to do is give you opiates, whereas a good bit of soul-searching & advice from comrades helps with the underlying problem rather than just the symptoms.

Ummm, if you think doctors prescribe opiates for depression you really don't know what you're talking about. And millions of people taking antidepressants would disagree that soul-searching and advice can substitute for drugs. I would say that they're overprescribed but that doesn't mean they aren't incredibly helpful.

+1. ty zook.

[flomo]

religions ain't such a bad thing

[givememyleg]

you can learn a lot about yourself on an acid trip.

[Ash256]

this thread is 2 pages too long. while there is some good advice in here, if you are serious about it you just need to go see a doctor. whining to an internet forum isn't going to help anything.

Disagree. All a doctor's going to do is give you opiates, whereas a good bit of soul-searching & advice from comrades helps with the underlying problem rather than just the symptoms.

Ummm, if you think doctors prescribe opiates for depression you really don't know what you're talking about. And millions of people taking antidepressants would disagree that soul-searching and advice can substitute for drugs. I would say that they're overprescribed but that doesn't mean they aren't incredibly helpful.

Fair enough, I was speaking through knowing people who've been depressed; I don't have statistics or any such thing.

It should be noted that I know quite a few people addicted to antidepressants also.

[Ash256]

you can learn a lot about yourself on an acid trip.

Sounds interesting, what about THE FEAR though?

[triumphant cracker]

a wise man once told me read this....

http://30sleeps.com/blog/about/

[chardrian]

reshave the boys.

yank the chain.

feel better.

nothing can, or has, ever really taken my mind off this shit

I'd be on lifetilt too if masturbation wasn't a cureall.

[swiggidy]

this thread is 2 pages too long. while there is some good advice in here, if you are serious about it you just need to go see a doctor. whining to an internet forum isn't going to help anything.

Disagree. All a doctor's going to do is give you opiates, whereas a good bit of soul-searching & advice from comrades helps with the underlying problem rather than just the symptoms.

Ummm, if you think doctors prescribe opiates for depression you really don't know what you're talking about. And millions of people taking antidepressants would disagree that soul-searching and advice can substitute for drugs. I would say that they're overprescribed but that doesn't mean they aren't incredibly helpful.

Yes. No. And FUCK YES.

[ ]Listenes to advice
[x] Likes attention
[ ] Cares about getting better
[x] Likes feeling sad

OP, Prove me wrong.

[givememyleg]

you can learn a lot about yourself on an acid trip.

Sounds interesting, what about THE FEAR though?

what's there to be scared of?

[Reidak]

this thread is 2 pages too long. while there is some good advice in here, if you are serious about it you just need to go see a doctor. whining to an internet forum isn't going to help anything.

Disagree. All a doctor's going to do is give you opiates, whereas a good bit of soul-searching & advice from comrades helps with the underlying problem rather than just the symptoms.

Ummm, if you think doctors prescribe opiates for depression you really don't know what you're talking about. And millions of people taking antidepressants would disagree that soul-searching and advice can substitute for drugs. I would say that they're overprescribed but that doesn't mean they aren't incredibly helpful.

Yes. No. And FUCK YES.

[ ]Listenes to advice
[x] Likes attention
[ ] Cares about getting better
[x] Likes feeling sad

OP, Prove me wrong.

i hate being sad dude. This is pretty much the worst or close to the lowest point in my life. It is hard to change what you have become so used to. I realize that im doing alot of things wrong that are fucking me up mentally.

i want to thank everyone for their advice and kind words. i'm doing my best not to let this totally consume me.

[a500lbgorilla]

Have you tried working out? Even if you're not doing it right, just using a pullup bar til you've got nothing left or doing pushups until your arms don't work will make you feel better quickly.

I'd second the idea of an acid trip but be aware of the chance you become dependent on drugs.

Have you tried happy food? Bananas, milk and a little chocolate?

[a500lbgorilla]

I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and prescribed some anti-depressants. I'm like you in a lot of ways except I'm a social butterfly. Though, I always hate the idea of going out, I've always had friends that like my company enough to pull me out of my house and in that regard I've been very blessed. Hell, I even get afraid of certain threads on FTR like this one, or ones about getting jobs, or wtf is going to happen with the economy...

The pills helped but I hated them. I still have like a bottle and a half laying around and stop filling out the script. All I try to do now is set goals and focus on them. I've had some stupid goals, like "physically exhaust myself once a week" and "read 3 books by sunday" once I dug up all of my old finals from my hardest semester in school and spent all night redoing them.

I still have problems setting goals that move me forward though. But I try baby steps. Sure, I'm probably behind the eight-ball as compared to other people my age. But I'm ahead of others. And what are we trying to do anyway? Find a way to burn 9 hrs a day working for someone else.

I've always thought once I can find a real life-long purpose to devote myself to, I'll be the happiest man on Earth. Until then, I'm just chipping away.

[flomo]

FTR needs more practice as an online prevention hotline

who is next?

[BankItDrew]

I'm sometimes depressed or not satisfied with my life too. I think it stems completely from a lack of productivity; this is the life of many poker players.

I find that what helps me the most is exactly what gorilla mentioned - exercise. It dramatically increases my self-esteem.