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Re: Questions about not being results oriented
This kind of confidence comes from already knowing (from past experience) you are good. These experts tell you this.. but realistically you can't just do the same if you are a novice. You don't have the past experiences to back up this confidence.
Neither do I.. that's why I take a combination of looking at my wins/losses, using after-the-fact judgment based on everything I learned (mostly here) and statistical analysis in my head to figure out where I stand.
It's the same with everything in life. I remember this girl, who is a very good dancer, telling me I should just dance and don't care how it looks, because that's what she does. (I suck at it so I never dance) When I pushed her on it a bit.. she admitted that she only stopped caring when she started getting frequent compliments about her dancing skills and invites to dance for money etc. Before that, she admitted after thinking it through, that she was pretty self-conscious about how it looked too.
Another example.. in some past I used to get very self-conscious around women. Now I simply don't care anymore.. but that is only BECAUSE I have stacked up so many past experiences, so I basically know a lot of the time women will like me/be into me.. especially so if I get to talk my game to them. So if I strike out.. whatever.. not my day I guess, or this particular girl I couldn't have. Among the next couple so I meet, I'll probably have a few winners again.
To summarize: You can only expect to have this confidence with enough past experience (success) that tells you the way you do things is right.
If you lack this experience, you sure as hell better look at your results, ie the money you make, or you will never improve. Chances are good you have many leaks so this confidence does you no good anyway.
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