when you read/think about suited connectors, think about cards that lie next to each other (e.g. 89) rather than cards that can form either end of a straight (e.g. Q8).
So you then have:
Suited connectors - play these in the right situation
1-gappers - again, play these (46s)
2-gappers - drop these (47)
3-gappers - drop these (48)

Try and bring it down to like 19-13 and see what happens. Limping Q8s is a good way to get stacked by an over flush, cos if everyone's limping then nobody is folding Axs