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 Originally Posted by boost
Speaking of the inequality in treatment of gay men vs gay women... It could be that with guys it's more common for them to be "straight" or "gay" because of societal pressures which don't give room for bisexuality among men. While if a woman munches some rug, people don't suddenly think of her as less of a woman, or something equal to feminine but entirely separate.
This is totally true. In our society, masculinity is valued over femininity (generally speaking). Not that girls have never gotten shit for not being girly, but tomboyish girls are more accepted than feminine men, who are dismissed or ridiculed as "pansies" or "sissies." Just look at Arya from Game of Thrones. People love her. Not without good reason or anything, but it's a good example. And just generally speaking, girls can play around with their gender expression more and play up their masculinity (although truly butch women have their own unique host of problems). America loves lesbians. Flamboyant gay men are accepted because it makes sense to simple-minded folk: well he's queer so he must be girly, so fine I guess I'll live with it. And then the super-straight acting gay guys are generally regarded as a pleasant surprise. But then you have a bisexual guy, and it's almost like an affront to people's sensibilities. Like, how dare you think you can be in the boy's club and be all masculine but ALSO suck dick like a girl. Pick one or GTFO.
Clearly I think about this stuff a lot. As a fellow bisexual (I have problems with that term but it will suffice for now) and person who has done her fair share of research on queer and gender theory, I have a wealth of opinions on this.
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