I saw Raise the Red Lantern years ago when we were watching that Hugh Heffner Girls Next Door show and it reminded someone about it. It is certainly a good recommendation for friends if you can find the appropriate context to bring it up.

I wouldn't recommend Grave of the Fireflies. It's a good movie, but watching isn't worth it. If you've seen it, you certainly know why. Very interesting for its perspective and a deeply good story.

And while I'm at it, 2001 a Space Odyssey was one of the most painful movie experiences I have ever had. I appreciate that for being a late 60s movie, it is a brilliant and far-seeing work of art, but for a man in the post 2001 world, I hated the vast majority of it save for HAL and the spaceship models.

Also, Rounders should not be in anyone's top 10 movies. If you can't think of 10 movies which trump it, count yourself lucky. You clearly have not seen many of the world's best movies.