Ong, if you read this, did anyone ever do this type of thing with you?
What, try to convince me that I'm not responsible for my own failures when I attempt to take responsibility? No. I think my friends actually respect me for being honest about my failures and not seeking to blame anyone else for my lack of success, despite the fact I very easily could have, since I had a messed up childhood.

Don't get me wrong, I've been dumped for being a shit boyfriend, and had my friends rally round me saying she's the bitch and there's nothing wrong with me. But deep down I knew I wasn't fucking her good enough. Hard for a man to admit that to himself, but in doing so I actually felt empowered. My next gf didn't dump me for that, I can say. She dumped me for not being daddy material.

How can you hope to improve if you don't accept responsibility for your own failures?