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 Originally Posted by wufwugy
I totally agree.
What do you think about when applying prescriptions? It can be true that "I'm the bestest" emerges from success and "Woe is me" emerges from failure, yet if we're dealing with prescriptions to "Woe is me," it might involve changing the outlook away from "Woe is me."
By prescriptions do you mean how to address the problem?
Well, clearly self-pity is not productive. The cure for that in a one-to-one setting is to say, 'Yes poor you. Explain the problem to me.' and then once you understand the problem, to say "Now what can, and are, we going to do about it?'. I think the approach needs to be handled carefully though, because different people have different buttons that need to be pushed to activate them out of their self-pity.
I had a colleague once who got a visit from a student doing a version of 'woe is me'. He went on to explain life variance to her with some equations and whatnot, and suffice it to say it did absolutely nothing for her in any way.
In a more society-wide setting 'woe is me' tends to be more complicated, and I don't know what the answer is. If you take the plight of minorities in many countries, the 'woe is me' is understandable and the way to resolve it is to try to resolve the cause if you can. But it's complicated.
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