First, I don't know why you've resigned yourself to letting him into your house when you really don't want to. You make it clear to your wife that this is not cool, else the same kind of situations are going to keep cropping up without her knowing that you have a problem with it. Keeping shit like that bottled up instead of communicating openly is how so many relationships are destroyed.
Second, I try to live my life cutting out shit people from it. He's a grown man and has to realize for himself what's best for him. Winding yourself up and lecturing him isn't going to do anything productive IMO. Like somebody else already posted, rather feel sorry for him that he's got such issues, and wish him all the best in finding his way, and don't let you get yourself emotionally involved in his troubles. If that means asking him politely (instead of passive-aggressively or threatningly etc) not to stay with you, but maybe at a motel instead, that's what you should do. Whether or not he can afford a motel is not your problem.
I went and got an exacto knife and very very carefully removed a random two pages from every single one of those comic books.See, now how does this kind of behaviour/attitude make you a better person than him?The best outcome for me would be if a piano falls on his head.
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