Place to start.... Don't f-kin do it. Engagement rings are a bizarre cultural joke. Emphasize the relationship, go with the minimum (the rock on her finger has absolutely zero relevance to the size of your d-ck, balls or general place in the world) and then upgrade that sh!t over time when the relationship continues to grow.

A big ring for a 10 year anniversary is worth way the f-k more than one given before you all been through the sh!t that is life together....

And don't buy into the 3 months paycheck even for a f-kin second, or I will track you down... and I can do that shit.

Get something that's meaningful, memorable and looks nice on her finger. That means proportional. So if she's small, get something on the smaller simpler size. If she's giant... go with some nugget jewelry.

Either way, take the emphasis completely off of the ring 'cause it don't mean a damn thing in comparison to the 60+ years and half of your lifetime networth that you are committing....

... oh, and I don't really have an opinion on this sh!t...