Warning, this racist, homophobic diatribe is about to turn sexist too.

If you've ever been in a relationship with a woman, then you KNOW what it's like to say or do something, with totally benevolent, or at least non-malicious intent, and yet still end up with a hurt, offended, blubbering whine bag on your hands.

Feelings don't have to be logical. You don't get to choose how someone perceives or reacts to what you do and say. If you say the n word, I know that a hell of a lot of black people will be offended by it, regardless of how 'logical' you think your context is. You don't get to thump your chest and accuse the listener of not being smart enough to understand your intent. They are entitled to their feelings, and you can choose to be sensitive to them, or not.

Personally, I choose to be sensitive to it, thus I use the term 'n word'. I am choosing to be sensitive to potential misinterpretation by presenting the word in a way that acknowledges it's existence, but pre-emptively removes any offensive connotation. Those hard g's just sound mean.

In regards to Louis CK, and his coffee joke, I think that does impugn his character. Just because he thought of something funny, doesn't mean he's obligated to perform it. He doesn't need that joke.