ie somone raises huge on the flop when I have tptk I lay it down two big stacks get all in with Ano kicker and pocket 5s so I would have dominated. A few hands later same situation so I call and they show a set.

You do realise here that your first fold was correct so you should have done the same the second time, right? Cos if not you're in trouble. DON'T BE RESULTS ORIENTED.