the problem was everyone was acing out of turn, usually leaving me at a position disadvantage. that wasn' really a valid game
If people act out of turn it gives you a position advantage. Acting out of turn means they make their move before they are supposed too, which gives you more information before you act.

However you should make an attempt to keep the order of action, otherwise the game is much harder to manage and opens up lots of arguement (player A raises, player B called out of turn, and player C who is supposed to act after A reraised, now is B required to call the reraise, can he retake his call to player A, can he fold and leave this money in the pot ?)