I am extremely new and typically full of crap.
with that said don't take me to seriously.
as said above considering you have a rep as very tight you could have used it to your advantage. had you shown aggression post flop before number 3 had a chance to act you would be more certain whether she had an all in bet or not. You still have the best possible kicker a queen and a flush draw. your on defence but not drawing dead nesessarilly.Remember, your freinds know your tight and number three called your raise which makes me think she had better than 5 7 preflop (or your not the one in need of advice she is). 9 10 is possible but still not likely (I wouldn't call a raise preflop against a tight player on 9 10 ) if you checked it alerted her that you were still drawing, she knew nobody in had the straight by your reactions and its gaps, and it gave her the oportunity to push you around. i think she had trips. raising early could have bought you the turn card and maybe the river. if you did raise and she raised you, then think you made the right play mucking. I'm reading skalansky and he says you should play very tight preflop, and play agressive post flop to protect your hand



wouldn't you have been first to act post flop in the BB ?