Ask Me Anything - spoonitnow

Originally Posted by Penneywize

Alright, tough one coming.

Azn girl works in my office. Be like 6/10 I guess, but, dresses very professional-like and that makes me want to F her all the more. Also very career driven and practices MMA which is oddly attractive to me. Petite though. Anyway - after a few months of chatting / flirting with a general cocky & funny-type attitude (assume I'm doing this relatively well) I feel like I'm in a spot where I can close the deal with a bit of effort. That is not what I am concerned about.

The question is, should I go through with it? There are some balancing factors here.

A: She works in my office, though in a different division and I probably wouldn't have to interact with her all that often if things went south.
B: I feel like she would want / expect a more or less committed relationship with anyone she would be intimate with. This isn't so bad on the surface (and I apologize in advance for racial profiling) but my last significant relationship was 4 years long and with another asian girl. Things got kind of fucked because her family was mega conservative and would not accept that she was dating a white guy. Also I feel like I'd either consciously or unconsciously be comparing this girl to previous said asian girlfriend. Which, who knows if she would measure up to an imagined standard of that sort.
C: I am not sure if I would want a long-term relationship with her or anyone at this point in my life. I basically spent the entirety of my 20s in two long relationships with a few smaller ones in between, and now 31 and earning well / very comfortable with self and feel like I can explore a little and make up for lost time (in a manner of speaking).

Thoughts -- go

This is an absolute, 100% no. You work with her and you earn well. There is absolutely no reason whatsoever to put your job in jeopardy over this female. If you don't believe that it would be putting your job in jeopardy, then that's another problem completely.

You should have no problem finding plenty of females to be involved with outside of the workplace. This girl is not special. Do not risk what you have over her.

Edit: I had to come back a few minutes later just to re-iterate. This girl is not special. She is not a unicorn. It's in your best interests to get over her and fill that void that getting over her creates with females (emphasis on plural) who you do not work with.