if he has a set like you think he does (which is just so incorrect to put him on exactly a set on the flop when he bets 1/3rd the pot) you actually have 3 non-spades tens and 7 spades (Qs and 2s are not outs if he has a set) for right in the neighborhood of 20% equity meaning you need 4:1 to call the turn, you're getting nowhere near that.