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wuf, just a little bit of semi-irl advice from some young, not-at-all-sage person:
We're not too different, you and I. I get "tl;dr"ed for like every other post I write; I'm interested in a really wide range of topics and am not afraid to get in vicious internet arguments on a lot of them; I think I'm smart and I use a lot of big words and facts I read in the New Yorker, etc, yet I'm not much more than a wannabe writer who moved out of my parents basement like 4 months ago; etc.
My advice would be to not take things/yourself so seriously. When you try to set yourself up as a grandmaster mage of werewolf/poker/politics/art, then people are naturally gonna see how you fall short of being the greatest thing in that genre ever, or worse yet, cheer against you being right and use all sorts of confirmation bias to show how you're nothing but a retarded, low-life blowhard (not like anyone thinks that of you; I'm just exaggerating how harsh haters can be). Otherwise, if you don't spend so much time trying to setup a very srs bsns platform, what do you think people will take away from your posts? Really, just think about it........
If you want my personal opinion (without getting all gushy and such here) I think it would be pretty obvious that you're a smart guy with a lot of interests who can add interesting facts to a conversation even if--worst case scenario!--they are misapplied or the source is specious or any number of things. At the very very very least you're pushing conversations forward, and people pretty much appreciate that so long as the tl;dr intellectualista wannabe can have a bit of a sense-of-humor about their admitted flaws. Unless you don't have any admitted flaws, in which case, I know what the problem is...
Just a little self-deprecation here and there could go a loooooooong way. Even if you're sweating bullets waiting at the computer hoping that your opponent's only rebuttal will be, "You're right; you're argument is airtight; you're awesome; fuck all the haters, you are a fine and intelligent person who should have is own YouTube channel," then your next post should do what it can to not reflect this at all...or better yet, your next post could be admitting that that's what you were doing and laugh at yourself for being so image-conscious in an internet argument.
Some examples: -Instead of opening a post by saying, "Here's the werewolf reads post to end all werewolf reads posts," open it by being like, "lol, it's Day 1, and I will be the first person laughing at me when all of this ends up being wrong, but I have some reads that I feel surprisingly good about."
-Instead of saying, "No, you can't be getting your facts from anywhere but conservative think-tank liars because everyone who knows anything holds the beliefs I do, but I don't even have time to get into all the explanations behind that's most definitely, certainly true right now, so you're just gonna have to educate yourself before you're even worthy of being talked to," you could say....well pretty much anything would be an improvement on that.
- Why get in a tizzy when people say "Hi, I'm wufwugy"? Well, okay, nevermind I feel ya there. It sucks to have a long, thought-out post be torn down by 3 smartass words that everyone for some reason agrees somes you up as a person. BUT you could maybe take a deep breath and be like, "Haha, okay yeah, that one got away from me a bit there, and admittedly {qualifier 1} and {qualifier 2}, but in my defense, this is a topic that's too complicated to be addressed in 160 characters, so maybe you could have a bit of patience with it and not right it all off just because it's long and a little too self-certain because, in the end, word count and tone actually proves abso-fucking-lutely nothing either way."
Hell, you could even open a post by being like, "here's a little bit of semi-irl advice from some young, not-at-all-sage person . . . " and even if it's obviously just a thinly-veiled way to come off as not taking yourself too seriously; hell, even if you specifically say later in THAT VERY SAME POST that you're just using that as a thinly-veiled way to come off as though you're not taking yourself too seriously and use it as a way to prove how great you are at doing the very thing you're trying to prove with your post (omg it works on so many levels! I'm the cleverest person on all of FTR, eat a dick BennyLaRue! Oh wait, but now I'm proving myself wrong...you're actually....kinda cool and.....better than me BennyLaRue. Okay, yeah, I think my readers fell for that), then people still can't help but appreciate the fact that you're knocking yourself down a notch, unless they're just silly guses who are looking for ways to hate you.
All that said, after seeing that all of this "breaks your heart," I feel bad about my comments in regard to you in the game thread. If you look at it, though, it has noooothing to do with how good/bad of a werewolf player you are (I, at best, skimmed the longer posts because I was just lurking, so I wouldn't know what I was talking about anyway). It really just speaks to this very point I'm making.
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