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Why poker screws with my head
I haven't written for a while, so I figured it was about time to get back into the mental part of the game, which for me has always been the hardest aspect of poker.
Writing about the mental aspects of poker is always hard because all of us wired differently. For me, the expectation of winning is the root of my poker mindfucks.
I understand that my QKs will only hit about 1 in 3 flops, but I expect it to hit EVERYTIME. And when it doesn't, I can't stop my brain from thinking that it never hits for me and always hits my opponents when I am playing.
I understand that my QQ will lose to AK almost half of the time when we get it all-in preflop. But I still expect it to win EVERYTIME. And when it doesn't, I can't stop my brain from thinking "I race so bad" or "I never win important races."
I understand that I should just play good poker and the results will take care of themselves. But I still expect to win EVERY tourney I play. And when I don't, I can't stop my brain from bemoaning my luck.
Some have told me that the cure to this is playing like a robot, without emotions. Sounds great in theory, but works like crap for me. I am just not wired that way. I am much more of a Phil Hellmuth than a Phil Ivey. Yes, I was that kid who hurled the monopoly board across the room when I lost. The reason I can't play without emotions is that for me to have no bad emotional responses would mean that I was OK with losing, or even worse that I EXPECTED TO LOSE. That's just never going to happen for me. I hope it never does - because if I expect to lose I don't see how I can play to my top potential. Maybe I'm cocky, maybe I'm bullheaded, maybe I'm an ass, but I expect to win every competition I enter so the robot cure won't do it for me.
For me then, there is no cure. I do make a concerted effort not to talk about bad beats (I still need to work on groaning in vent though). I try to just let losses go and move onto the next tourney. But I will never stop expecting to win EVERYTIME. Which means poker will continue to screw with my head.
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