Originally Posted by
aubreymcfate
not to sound like the most annoying person on the planet but honestly there's no way i won't with what i'm about to say, but my boyfriend and i have ridiculously open communication. we're totally honest with each other, and you have to face your own fears, your jealousies, your possessive tendencies, your insecurities, etc. it's difficult but incredibly rewarding and once you reveal the forms of your own destructive patterns, you can subvert them and achieve such a beautiful and satisfyingly deep connection. it takes a lot of communication and a lot of self-exploration and a lot of brutal honesty with yourself but...
what i'm trying to say is when you make a commitment to doing that, you stop living in this "omg the other sex is so inscrutable, i have no idea what's going on in their heads" paradigm and you start understanding and appreciating the labyrinth of your lover's mind.