I want to touch on these two paragraphs in particular on the point of what is recommended to do once covert contracts have been rooted out and you're sacrificing to yourself instead of to other people [without their knowledge of the deal you have with them in your head], etc.
As I covered above, the first two steps in the process, for someone like Hero or in other related situations, are to accept the truth and to learn to do it for their own sake instead of doing it for someone else.
The third step is to then actually put a plan into action. As I note in the quote above, different segments of the community will recommend different approaches, but it mostly just comes down to deciding what you want to do and then doing that.
One thing you have to decide is how you want to handle your relationships with women. Here are a few common approaches for heterosexual men, in order of their perceived difficulty:
- "Spinning Plates" - This is the name given to a form of solo polyamory where you see multiple women (plates) in short-term relationships without committing to any of them in particular on really any level whatsoever.
- Soft Harem - The same as above, but the women are exclusive to you.
- Long-term Relationship - The standard long-term relationship made better by keeping your attraction up. Legal marriage is still discouraged as a matter of practicality with family/divorce courts being measurably one-sided towards women, which is its own tangent outside of the scope of this post.
- Multiple Open Relationships - This is like spinning plates with longer term relationships. You'll do somewhat more comfort-based activities, like spending a fair amount of time together for purposes other than sex, but the women aren't necessarily exclusive to you.
- Hard Harem - Multiple long-term relationships with women who are exclusive to you.
Most young guys want to spin plates or have a soft harem, and most guys who are a bit older (say late 20s and up) tend to want long-term relationships or multiple open relationships. You can see how each of these would require different degrees of attraction and comfort to make work (ie: spinning plates doesn't require much comfort at all, but a long-term relationship does).
I want to point out that hard harems are generally seen as being too difficult and impractical to cultivate and maintain to be a reasonable goal for a majority of men. It's the only arrangement of the five above that isn't covered in tremendous detail by the RP praxeology. Likewise, spinning plates is the method recommended the most for guys to start with because it's fairly easy once you start working on your attraction levels.
What you'll also notice is that men are typically told that wanting anything other than a long-term relationship with a woman makes them a piece of shit and some kind of perverted deviant. This type of pressure pushes most men into wanting a long-term relationship, and when you combine that with them typically having no idea how to build and maintain attraction, you end up with a lot of men not getting laid inside of crappy relationships.
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Overall, there's a huge problem here in general because men often don't actually know what they want. This is not unlike what we mentioned briefly in a previous post about women not knowing what they want either. Men have been told what they are supposed to want for so long that they start believing it, but when they get it, they feel completely unfulfilled. This is a pretty good treatment of that particular topic and the idea of discovering what it is you actually want: http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2017/...ont-know-want/
I always like having an opportunity to brag, so I'll do so here since the quote is related:
https://i.imgur.com/w3HPJ7B.jpg
"In order to have what you really want, you must first be who you really are." -Tim Grover
My girl has been practicing calligraphy for a few months and made this a few nights ago. She made the border first and then wanted my suggestion on what to put in the middle, and I gave her the above quote.
Edit: Brag.