Originally Posted by Jared Tendler
So how do you learn it? There are a number of ways:
1) Repetition everyday regardless of whether the issues comes up. This helps to build familiarity, so when the problem does show up and emotion may throw you off your plan, you can instead recognize the problem in the moment and return to focusing on playing well, rather than protecting your win.
2) When the issue does show up, take a couple deep breath to seperate yourself from the emotion a bit. This is an emotional prob, so its treated just like I treat Tilt. Then remind yourself of your long-term goals and how playing right now is important to getting there. Fight your way to extend the session longer, even if its just for another few minutes that's progress. Over time, you'll be able to push yourself further and further as you 1) gain experience doing it, 2) increase the strength of the long-term perspective/process oriented approach. Quitting is an option many people suggest, I only suggested it if you are risk at making sig mistakes. If you can continue to play well and think you have an edge in the game, pushing yourself to play well in a spot that is tough for you, is a big help to learning the long-term perspective better and in reinforcing parts of your game that can often be leaks.
3) Set process oriented goals. Many players have goals that talk about money, hours, limits to play, hands, etc. All things that can easily quantified. They are important, but you need to balance them with process goals that talk about the specific skills that you want to develop. In this case your goal is to have the process oriented approach/long-term perspective to show up in the short-term.
