do me a favore....

"I just couldnt help mysefl but throw out an aids joke. And then compound it by later referring to it as gaids."

i thought this was hilarious

and, in this thread, some people are having trouble making a distinction here. let me ask you this, would this joke be funny if this kid had not actually committed suicide? if it would, then why is it not funny because he did? what's making people mad is that making fun of the note and making fun of the suicide are similar but different and if you can't distinguish between the two you will be offended.

First let me just sum up a few things for everyone...

Those people who say suicide is weak and whimpy and how could you ever off yourself because of another person, then you yourself have not felt that deeply for someone. That doesnt mean there isnt more feeling it just means you havent felt it yet and someone else has. Things can add up in peoples lives. Think about the worst day you ever had. Imagine it 10x worse for 5 months. On your worst day did you get dumped by the love of your life, has one of your family members died, have you lost your life savings to raise your family at a poker table, did you just get into an accident an run over a little kid. You cant imagine how many things can go wrong in peoples lifes to say that the pain they have is little and it is a whimpy way out. I dont condone suicide or say it is the right thing but putting someone who is dead down and making fun because they couldnt deal with there life? Because they were never taught proper methods to deal with stress? Because they just had the shitstorm weak of there life? Thats bullshit. Excuse the language but everyone that believes that is very close minded and arrogant. I respect a lot of your oppinions and ideas but a lot of what I have heard in this thread is immature or disrespectful and a subject like this should be taken more serious especially with the maturity that we should expect on this forum.

-zarry

Laughter is a defense mechanism our body uses to relieve stress. It's ok to find humor in tragedy, if only for the sake of getting through it. It's possible to be genuinely empathetic and still find humor in something. It usually seems innappropriate, but it's not. It's just what we do.

Why is it funny that some kid we don't know killed himself over something that didn't justify it? To me it's because he took himself too seriously. To stretch the circumstance a little further, those who find this humorous may feel that killing yourself over a woman is not too far removed from setting yourself on fire because your poptarts taste funny.

Local Internet Company Uses Humor to Cope With Tragedy
http://www.greggore.com/dln110701.htm

Using humor to cope with tragedy is an old concept. We should really cry when we watch The Three Stooges shouldn't we? They're smacking the shit out of each other and each one of them should be dead about 7 times an episode. Instead we almost kill ourselves laughing.

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Originally Posted by Irvin S. Cobb

"Humor is merely tragedy standing on its head with its pants torn."

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Here's a true story...

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Humor In Practice - When Is It OK To Laugh?

The days following my seven year old nephew’s death were a blur of activities. The busy-ness of making funeral arrangements, greeting friends and sharing memories kept us conveniently distracted so that our brains would not stumble into the pockets of grief scattered throughout our mind. We would spend enough time there over the months ahead so the distractions were welcomed.

After two viewings, a memorial service and a graveside service, our family gathered at my parents’ home for a needed meal and some rest. We picked at our dinner, a generously donated gift of the usuals. Chicken Tetrazine, green bean casserole with the little canned onion rings on top, buttery homemade rolls and rich chocolate brownies made from scratch. Then we slumped into our seats in the living room and let out a collective sigh. We looked like warriors that had just returned from battle and our faces showed the fatigue of defeat. THEN, for the next two hours, we told jokes.

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I don't mean to seem like I'm drilling the point home, but a lot of misery in various humans stems from their inability to relieve stress through making light of tragedy. I remember seeing a cartoon after 911 showing what the new world trade center should look like. It was a building that looked like a hand flipping the bird. It was intensely funny because it had a powerfully emotional premise. Listen, We all die someday. No need to get too serious about this thing we call life and death. Is it sad for the family? Of course it is. That's not a license to depress mankind. It would simply be innappropriate to make jokes about the situation directly in their company or directed at loved ones intending to deepen their sorrow. It's ok. Laugh about it. That's what we do. I assure you it's perfectly appropriate.

I am now working on a case where an inmate is suing my great state because one of the guards jokingly told him (or maybe another inmate) after he was complaining about something that maybe he should just go kill himself. When the guard came back later, the inmate asked him how (as is in how should I kill myself) and the guard told him to "be creative." The inmate then later tried to kill himself and is now suing the state saying the guard made him do it.

Funny or not?

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Originally Posted by chardrian

I am now working on a case where an inmate is suing my great state because one of the guards jokingly told him (or maybe another inmate) after he was complaining about something that maybe he should just go kill himself. When the guard came back later, the inmate asked him how (as is in how should I kill myself) and the guard told him to "be creative." The inmate then later tried to kill himself and is now suing the state saying the guard made him do it.

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I was laughing.

The US court system is broken :/

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Originally Posted by chardrian

I am now working on a case where an inmate is suing my great state because one of the guards jokingly told him (or maybe another inmate) after he was complaining about something that maybe he should just go kill himself. When the guard came back later, the inmate asked him how (as is in how should I kill myself) and the guard told him to "be creative." The inmate then later tried to kill himself and is now suing the state saying the guard made him do it.

Funny or not?

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thats funny

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Originally Posted by chardrian

I am now working on a case where an inmate is suing my great state because one of the guards jokingly told him (or maybe another inmate) after he was complaining about something that maybe he should just go kill himself. When the guard came back later, the inmate asked him how (as is in how should I kill myself) and the guard told him to "be creative." The inmate then later tried to kill himself and is now suing the state saying the guard made him do it.

Funny or not?

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smart inmate. retarded guard.

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Originally Posted by chardrian

When the guard came back later, the inmate asked "how should I kill myself"
and the guard told him "be creative."

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How many ways can you think of to kill yourself in a jail cell? Be creative.

-Slam your skull against the bars
-Jump from the top bunk into a suicide split
-Drown yourself in the toilet (after taking a dump)
-Give yourself 254 consecutive spacemonkeys
-Cry to your roommate

Anyone else call it a spacemonkey?

Muxy. You still havnt actually said which part of this is funny?
To the people saing don't get hostile, Isnt laughing at somebody being miserable and then dying sort kinda just a tiny bit hostile in the first place? It isnt excactly friendly is it.

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Originally Posted by a500lbgorilla

Doggz, just a question I was thinking about.

Let's say that your (blank) died tragically by getting suffocated in a pile of elephant shit. Just a huge shit-slide that he/she was caught in while petting some elephant.

If the blank was your brother, would you laugh? You mother? You grandmother? Your aunt? How far removed from you do they have to be before it's funny?

I would say great grandfather or great great grandmother.

-'rilla

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I'm reminded of a Mary Tyler Moore episode. Fictional situation, real issue. The clown at the TV station was killed by an elephant while 'Chuckles' was dressed as a giant peanut. Everyone but Mary found this funny in addition to the saddness. Mary spent the entire episode belittling the others for laughing at a death. Then at the funeral, Mary herself couldn't stop giggling at the situation.

In another related story, a local DJ on our radio was talking seriously about how he had thought about suicide, but he was too chicken/weak to go through with it. He got into MAJOR shit and had to make a public apology elaborating that he simply got too scared to pull the trigger and that the chicken part is suicide.

Point is, death is scary and serious. Suicide brings on it's own issues. But some people feel that laughter is a way of accepting that which they don't understand or can't deal with. Others have just accepted a death as a death (which is very easy to do when the person is someone they never had contact with and therefore can't think of as 'real') and those people see a guy who used an unorthodox and inpersonal way to inform total strangers of his personal actions. There is a little comedy in there, and we can't fault those for finding the humor. But I'm not laughing.

The funny thing is this kid killed himself and the last thing he did before he did it was post on his myspace.

Whenever i commit suicide i will be sure to post in the Commune before i go AWOL.

Another funny thing is he is EMO and EMO like rilla said is a disease. Rumour has it that his actual sicide note that he posted on his website and not his myspace blog said he did this all over a high school girlfriend.

Damn my g/f of 2-1/2 years cheated on me in september. Do i go commit suicide no i say fuck that shit and start "prowlin" again.

Do me a favore....

Racism is not funny.
Funny EMO kids posting suicide notes on myspace is kind of funny.