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Originally Posted by eugmac
fuck man. move state or even better, country. fucking crap country you live in, that is.
I cant bring myself to do it. Canada sounds wonderful, but all my friends and family live here.
Originally Posted by kiwiMark
my half-assed way of dealing with a vaguely similar was to find stuff where person A has the edge and person B has the edge, even if its just due to familiarity with the game and where it's sort of almost accepted who's gonna win beforehand and aim of the game is just making it a bit of a challenge for them or whatever. to be honest it's not a great solution.
How much does he care about losing? If I'm in a situation where I'm expecting to lose then my ego doesn't mind so much, and I quite enjoy the challenge, really my only fear/concern in that area is that I'm boring the other person.
Iunno how easy it would be to get the point across that even if you are better in all games than him that doesn't paint a complete picture of intellect or intelligence, as you said you're interested in game theory and the like and probably expend more practice/effort working on improving there (even if that just means more conscious thought on decisions while playing), which is maybe a skill like anything else rather than some kind of indicator of who's smarter.
you already answered my one liking it in the pooper related question in another thread ty
Find a game hes good at? Ive thought of this, but the only games i KNOW ill lose at involve memory or trivia...and he doesnt want to stomp me into oblivion in those. (He is much more knowledgeable than I in almost every respect, i love it).
Oh, he hates losing. Especially when its over and over again. I think one issue is that he doesnt want to accept that im better in certain games, and as to your next point, Ive so far failed to adequately explain that losing doesnt make him intellectually inferior. I keep trying though, damn it.
Re pooper question: yw! (PS, I was talking about me and my bf there)
Originally Posted by ImSavy
I have very rarely got so pissed off in my life.
I feel the same. Went easy on me? FUCK YOU.
Originally Posted by imsavy
Ask them why they want to play whatever game it is you are playing.
He wants to play to have fun, but they want to also play strategy games and win every now and then. Paradox!
Originally Posted by Lukie
Anyway, back on topic.
Any advice out there for guys who want to have a threesome with their girlfriend? (and another female of course)
Um, hard question. If this is a serious question, its entirely dependent on your relationship. Id say you need too things though.
1) Communication
2) Security.
You need to communicate why you want this, but its gotta be more than that. Does she have any interest, at all, in playing a bit with another girl? If so, what type of girl? Are you in it just to fuck another woman? That might make her feel bad...and if you just want to watch while they lez out, its gonna be pretty unfun and stupid if she has absolutely no interest.
You BOTH also need to be 100% secure with the other person. Seeing you with someone else may be hurtful. In my case, its easier. Girls ordinarily dont have dicks, so its easy to understand my need to play with someone with a jayjay while not making my bf feel like hes being replaced or demoted. But, its still a serious concern. He lets me flirt with girls (guys too) because hes 100% secure that I wouldnt do anything, but if there was any doubt...Im not sure it would happen.
Originally Posted by swiggidy
This is one of the best new commune threads I've seen in some time.
TY
Originally Posted by swiggidy
I would never play poker with a friend who doesn't know, and doesn't care because it would be boring, and they wouldn't play for enough $$ to mater (i.e. I walk away up $25, big woop).
I think a "you couldnt afford to play poker with me" argument would work as a good excuse, but not for other games
So yeah, diversify into something with more luck maybe?
Untouched in the discussion so far is team sports...
P.S. Good luck with the love life JKDS. Sorry people are stupid (referring to the general public, not your bf)
Ive been asking my RL friends, and they suggested that as well. Maybe not the difference between luck and skill games, but perhaps just sticking to skill games that have a boatload of variance.
Re Sports: Neither of us is really into them. Short white guys cant jump. Im gonna be challenging him to a nerf gun war soon though.
Thanks for the good luck!
Originally Posted by aubreymcfate
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Clearly I think about this stuff a lot. As a fellow bisexual (I have problems with that term but it will suffice for now) and person who has done her fair share of research on queer and gender theory, I have a wealth of opinions on this.
Id love to here more.
Originally Posted by aubreymcfate
I just like to be the best. Always. And if I can't have that, I sure as fuck won't settle for being treated charitably in any sort of competition.
Ive heard this enough times now to know Im not crazy for thinking this. Glad theres a ton of people who hate people that go easy on them.
Originally Posted by Chelle
I don't understand why people seem to think a male can't be bisexual as well. Both genders have their positives and their negatives. I mean, hell, I love the female body, and I love the male body. I've always had this weird feeling about being attracted to females even as a young teenager, and always denied it because of the area I was raised in. When I really accepted who I was, what I liked, what I thought was attractive, I started really finding myself.
This this this this this.
Originally Posted by swiggidy
Sometimes being the far and away best player (I'm thinking video games here) gets boring. I think it's interesting to find sub-optimal ways to play that can still be victorious. Sometimes you get caught with your pants down, sometimes you end up in a hole and have to channel every ounce to make a come-back. One can always fall back on a beat down in the next game to re-establish dominance. I find these dynamics interesting, and if I'm the worse player I don't mind pulling out the occasional win if the first person is leaving a hole in their game.
Same.
Originally Posted by JL
On a serious note, JKDS, I am curious how this started. What was your first bi-sexual experience? Did you do role-reversal with your previous girlfriend? Did you have a threesome with another guy and a girl?
After that, how did you meet your first boyfriend?
My first bisex experience was January. I started realizing more and more that I was bisexual. Its not like its an easy realization to make. Obviously, I had fantasies regarding women (i still watch a LOT of lesbian and hetero porn), so what to make of the occasional dick fantasy? Dont many straights have those every once in awhile? Hell, I can remember one where I'm on rickety, narrow, wooden, plank bridge high between two mountains, (im afraid of heights) and some rednecked asshole starts raping me. Wtf does that even mean?
At somepoint, I realized I wasnt just looking at guys at the gym to check out different workouts. I started thinking about rape fantasies more, squeezing muscles more, but women were still the dominate fantasy (I still watched them bounce on treadmills).
So, I started calling myself "bi-curious", just to explore it at first...and then after that I realized that I liked the idea of being with a guy too. I was officially bisexual, and got approached by a "bear" at a bar. We talked a bit, he thought I was cute (I blushed like mad), we kissed (I hated it!), but I liked him enough to overcome that. Its now 5 months later.
To your other questions, I wasnt in a relationship when i started putting two and two together. However, had she brought it up...my curiosity probably would have had me agree.
Originally Posted by Chelle
JKDS, tell your boyfran to stop being silly, if he plays you at the video games then he can expect to possibly lose. If he doesn't like it, then tell him to get better or stop playing. p.s., I'm happy for you.
TY! I think hes being pretty silly. I havent tried the direct "get better or quit" line, I'm kinda scared.
Originally Posted by bigspenda73
I let my bf take ridiculously good prop bet sides vs. me so he feels good about scamming me out of $70 on CPA exams. His wife appreciates it too.
Lol
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