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 Originally Posted by wufwugy
What damage?
Predicting what exactly the damage will be in the middle of the storm is not possible. That doesn't mean we can't know that tornadoes are bad.
That kinda gets at a point that I imagine may be fundamental to our disagreement here: I think lying is like violence (it's an analogy, I'm not SJWing here)-- there are times when what is on the other side of the equation is so bad that it's worth it, but it should be avoided at all costs and certainly should not be casually employed. It creates an inherently unstable platform from which to go forward, and in the case of lying specifically, this unstable platfrom is caused because lying is by definition a divergence from reality.
So, yeah, I don't grant that "no" is always the right answer to "do I look fat in this?" It's the easy answer, but the question is indicative of underlying problems in the individual posing the question, and offering the easy answer is indicative of the desire to avoid addressing tough situations in the relationship and thereby sweeping problems under the rug that are bound to surface in a worse way down the road.
The damage of "no, you don't look fat in it" may never be apparent, it may be very hard or impossible to link back to the seemingly benign white lie, but by examining both the question and the answer we can know that it is at best avoiding underlying issues and possibly exasperating them (she doesn't actually believe you..)
We don't need to wait for the crash, Trump is driving recklessly.
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