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  1. #76
    Quote Originally Posted by givememyleg View Post
    How important is one's health to be mentally sharp while playing poker? Do you think diet/exercise may be a leak that is often overlooked?
    Important, but in terms of performance I think some people have overblown it’s importance. There is research that proves exercise and a better diet can increase energy levels. But it’s important for people to realize that if they make a change to either, there’s an adjustment period where they could actually play worse. But it’s a short-term investment to have more energy – which can allow them to play better/longer/recover faster/handle more mental crap/etc – in the long run.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  2. #77
    Quote Originally Posted by highcard View Post
    Speaking of mental warming... I am studying a foreign language and I have seen that I need to relate to the language before I start my class, do you think this is something we all should do when wanting to play poker? Maybe sit out for a while and evaluate our competition can be considered warming?
    Not for a while right before you play. A warm-up is designed to get you ready to play and shouldn’t be more than 30 minutes, and likely closer to 10-15 minutes for most players. But yes definitely do this, just don’t do it for that long.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  3. #78
    Quote Originally Posted by highcard View Post
    I have a lot of trouble on focusing while playing poker, what's the best advice you can give me to not lose my focus and lose money while doing it? I have seen banners and just general chat keep me distracted sometimes and make me lose. Any exercise?
    Set clear goals for the session, including working hard to recognize when your focus has slipped, and work hard to refocus each time. Focus can be a bit like a muscle. If you’re too relaxed with it, it gets weaker. If you push yourself to maintain focus at times that it’s hard, focus get stronger. Yes this is challenging, but so is building muscle in the gym.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  4. #79
    Can't believe this hasn't been asked yet:

    Would you rather fight 100 duck size horses or 1 horse sized duck?
  5. #80
    Quote Originally Posted by tommyd View Post
    Hi Jared,
    1) What do you think about personality types (introvert/extrovert) and their effect on people's poker game?
    Hi Tommy, I’m not really sure. I haven’t studied or noticed this much. I do think in general, the more people play in ways that are most congruent with their natural style, the better they play.

    Quote Originally Posted by tommyd View Post
    2) On the topic of books, having become a successful writer do read very much these days? If so what is your favourite novel?
    I haven’t read much recently (last 6 months), and when I do I tend to read a lot of non-fiction. Last novel I read was Ender’s Game. Entertaining and enjoyed it. Favorite novel is either The Alchemist, or Sidhartha.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  6. #81
    Quote Originally Posted by vendetta View Post
    Hi Jared! I find strategy articles very useful, but sometimes very overwhelming. Is it possible for one to read and instruct by only reading one author? For example many online articles are written by different people and the approach is always different, I think this is what gets me confused. Do you think variety is good or should I stick to only reading strategy articles and advice from one author?
    I’m of the belief that people should do what works. Sometimes that’s hard to know. In this case, it sounds like reading multiple authors isn’t working, so try the other approach and see what happens.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  7. #82
    Quote Originally Posted by mokingit View Post
    do you think your book also can apply to any other mental and strategy game or only to Poker?
    It applies elsewhere as long as that person is willing to do some work. I’ve heard from golfers, day-traders, pool players, chess players, and magic the gathering players who have all read and loved the book.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  8. #83
    Quote Originally Posted by Biazellag View Post
    Do you think Poker is a game that can be taught (and learned by anyone), or requires some natural talent?
    Anyone can learn, but not anyone can become winning poker players. Talent is definitely a factor.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  9. #84
    Alllllrighty yall, I got head out for tonight, but I will be back to answer some other questions I missed tomorrow. Adios for now.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  10. #85
    Hey Jared, this is from a friend who says your books are the most helpful he's read:

    "One of the things that i struggle with is maintaining my "whole" game. What I mean by "whole" is the cadre of thought process' that are required while multitabing to play a solid /or at least my C+ game. I'm curious how you reccomend using mental stickies while playing? Is it mostly just repetition, practice?"
  11. #86
    Quote Originally Posted by Jared Tendler View Post
    Alllllrighty yall, I got head out for tonight, but I will be back to answer some other questions I missed tomorrow. Adios for now.
    Thanks, Jared! Really appreciate your time and awesome if you're able to return. The answers have been great!
  12. #87
    Quote Originally Posted by Jared Tendler View Post
    Alllllrighty yall, I got head out for tonight, but I will be back to answer some other questions I missed tomorrow. Adios for now.
    Thanks so much Jared!
  13. #88
    Just wanted to mention that ftrs own Danny Steinberg has a two page section in Jared's new book.

    - Max
  14. #89
    And also that you should get TMGoP 2 on audio book cause Jared's voice is better than Barry Whites
  15. #90
    Quote Originally Posted by Pascal View Post
    Hey Jared, this is from a friend who says your books are the most helpful he's read:

    "One of the things that i struggle with is maintaining my "whole" game. What I mean by "whole" is the cadre of thought process' that are required while multitabing to play a solid /or at least my C+ game. I'm curious how you reccomend using mental stickies while playing? Is it mostly just repetition, practice?"
    /or learning to spot the subtleties of tilt and mental game degradation?


    I was multi-tabling 6m at the time, and was looking up the myriad of notes I had taken from TMGOP1, (thanx pascal )
    I wanted to add a bit more to maybe clarify or expand upon my question. The game is challenging in that new or unexpected variables arise almost daily, the more I learn the more i realize how much I still have yet to learn, i'll call it the rabbit hole theory .
    This is the back-story of the question
  16. #91
    Quote Originally Posted by dlbarlowe View Post
    I know this may sound silly to some people, but I'm wondering if you can give me any advice about overcoming grief. I am over thirty and do not have biological children of my own. I think that is one of the reasons why I am so passionate about companion animals, including my own pets. Last Thursday, I had to make the decision to put the canine equivalent of the love of my life, my Labradoodle, Marcy, to sleep. Ever since, I've had difficulty sleeping, working...and not crying. I'm not a particularly emotional person so I don't know if I'm making up for opportunities where I haven't cried in the past or if I'm going nuts. Marcy is not the only dog I've held as she's gone off to heaven, but her loss has hit me harder than almost anything else has in recent memory. What can I do to get over this? I've tried vodka, but it hasn't worked as of yet...Thanks.
    Very sorry to hear about this. I've had a few pets close to me die and I grieved both of their losses. I hadn't thought about one of them for a long time and today saw a dog that looked exactly like one, and made a me a little emotional. Anytime you have someone or something that you care that deeply it's going to be emotional to lose them.

    Overcoming grief is not my expertise, but for sure lay off the vodka - that's only going to suppress your emotion which if successful would only hurt you in the long-run. I'm a big fan of writing rather than just experiencing emotion - so consider writing about what's in your head and heart. That may help you to work through and past your grief. You may also consider going to a therapist. While your grief may be completely normal - it could be helpful to get some feedback from someone with a lot of experience in this area.

    Wish you well.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  17. #92
    Quote Originally Posted by Seriously... View Post
    I have a habit with getting annoyed with other people's behavior when I'm playing poker. For instance, it drives me nuts when someone chews with his/her mouth open. Can you recommend some sort of meditation or something that can help me to politely ignore people whose habits annoy the crap out of me?
    Why don't you ask them politely to chew with their mouth closed?

    The other side of this is why does it bother you? Do you think it's rude? Is it just the sound? Understanding this can help you to come up with a phase that can help to keep you calm. There are often reasons why things bother us. Understand that and you might find some hidden expectations, or wishes that people would do what you want. By letting go of things you can't control - or by actually speaking up, you may find some inner peace with this even in the face of something annoying.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  18. #93
    Quote Originally Posted by kiwiMark View Post
    Hey Jared,

    One of the things I enjoyed most about your book is that the concepts you present, although you do a great job tying them to poker, are applicable way more broadly than that - obviously to sport and the like but really any area of your life that you're trying to improve has a mental game aspect. Have you considered writing for a broader audience or do you feel like you've found your niche with poker?

    Thanks for the first book and I'm looking forward to getting my hands on a copy of the second
    Thanks Mark - appreciate the feedback! I love working in poker and will be around for the foreseeable future. But I have considered writing for a broader audience and am excited about the prospects of this. Haven't set a time frame for it, but I am beginning to research/brainstorm ideas for what it would look like. I'm not going to write a "Mental Game of Life" kind of book. I want it to be more broadly applicable and think I need an angle/hook that would resonate with people who may be skeptical about the value of my work.

    Look forward to hearing what you think of the new book!
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  19. #94
    Quote Originally Posted by Hippy80 View Post
    Hey Jared,

    I've managed to get my hands on a copy of your second book (thanks Barry), and I'm trying to find time to read it, as I'm sure it's as good as the first one.
    I write a daily article on Viktor Blom's high stakes action, and I've noticed he seems to have some issues with his mental game.
    He seems to spiral out of control when he loses, and has been known to try and "play through the pain" and ends up losing massive amounts.
    The thing is, his "A" game is amongst the best in the world at the games he has been playing. I think he may be chasing the respect of the poker community at large, as he has been getting negative comments from them for as long as he has been on the scene.
    Do you have any advice I can pass on to Viktor, or any suggestions of the chapters in either book that may be worth him reading? I think his mental game may be the only thing stopping Viktor from being unstoppable, when he wins, he tends to win a lot, when he loses, he loses a lot. If he was to learn when to pull the plug (when's not on his "A" game) I think his earnings would jump accordingly.
    I'd appreciate your opinion.
    Hey Hippy!

    That's great - hope you enjoy the new one.

    Actually, I'd say if Viktor could learn to keep his emotions from spiraling that would be the ideal. There's no doubt in my mind that one of the reasons he is so successful is the intensity that he brings to the game. The problem is that intensity can also have a darker side which can cause difficulty. Intensity at that level exaggerates any hidden flaws within his mind. You're suspecting that he's chasing respect - without speaking to him I'm won't speculate about what it is. But it also could be as simple as being ultra competitive and not being able to handle losing well enough.

    I would suggest he reads chapter 3 of TMGP as he might benefit immediately just from knowing more about the reality of Emotions. Then to read the opening sections to each type of tilt to figure out what flaws are blowing up. The key to a good solution is a good assessment of the problem. Aside from that, have him contact me for coaching
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  20. #95
    Quote Originally Posted by Filik View Post
    1) Who would you say was the most interesting guest ever at your podcast?
    I've been fortunate enough to have a lot of great guests. My interview with Krantz a few weeks ago was awesome - I really enjoyed talking with him. Can't really say who was the most interesting - most were so for different reasons.

    Quote Originally Posted by Filik View Post
    2) What was your longest ever online session?
    An hour...? Honestly don't remember it was over 2 years ago now. I never really played much. But I do regularly grind 10-14 hour work days.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  21. #96
    Quote Originally Posted by rong View Post
    Hey.

    I think it might have been mentioned already, but I also struggle to maintain focus for long periods of time, for me approx 45-60 mins online multitabling and I start to lose focus.

    What can I do to extend the time I can play for and secondly reduce the time it takes me to recover, which us currently approx 30 mins.

    Thanks
    #1 eliminate your current C-game. May sound strange to say, but a major reason that players can't play very long is because they have to think to hard. Every decision you make burns energy and the harder the decision the more you burn. So if you want to be energy efficient, you have to be able to make the easy decisions even easier. Beyond that - push yourself like you're in the gym trying increase speed, strength or endurance.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  22. #97
    Quote Originally Posted by YoYo View Post
    What kind of impact do you think events like the Boston Marathon bombing and school/theater shootings have on children? Do you have any advice re how subjects like these should be discussed with youngsters so that they're not afraid and don't become desensitized?
    Depends on the age of the child - but PTSD can happen to children/adults of any age. I do think a big part of how kids react is a function of how the adults in their lives react - especially younger kids. How much they're discussed with a child is something that has to be determined by that child's parent. They know them best and have a sense of what they can handle. This an immensely important area and honestly not one I've studied that much. Plus I don't have kids yet, so I lack that perspective as well.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  23. #98
    Quote Originally Posted by mrickett View Post
    Can you briefly touch on how your career developed into what it is today? I'm interested in the journey. Was mental health counseling something you were into before you discovered the poker niche, or was it poker itself that pushed you in that direction to begin with?

    I really feel your area of expertise can and should be applied to all aspects of life, have you considered diversifying and trying to help people with other areas of their life?
    Poker was pretty random. I don't know if I would have thought about it on my own. I was working with golfers, after getting a license in mental health counseling when I met Dusty Schmidt on the golf course. He was the one that opened the door for me in poker. I didn't dive right in, but the more I hung around the bigger the opportunity I saw and the more poker clients that I started to work with.

    I have thoughts of diversifying, but nothing immediate. I'm 34 and plan on working for another 40-50 years, so I have some time...
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  24. #99
    Quote Originally Posted by dlbarlowe View Post
    If you won millions in the lottery, would you continue to work?
    Absolutely. I could be a 30 year old retirey. Retirement it seems isn't great for your health and longevity: http://www.freakonomics.com/2012/05/...place-podcast/

    I need to be challenged/interested/motivated and winning the lottery wouldn't give me anything other than opportunities to be challenged in different ways. I probably would do a lot more work with people who can't afford my hourly since I wouldn't be concerned with money. But honestly what I would do if I won the lottery isn't something I think about anymore.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  25. #100
    Quote Originally Posted by cr4zybe4utifu1 View Post
    Who has been your favorite professional player to coach?
    My client list is confidential and I can only mention the people who have already made it known that I work with them. So, sort of a small list. But I've had a lot of fun working with Lex Veldhuis and Dusty Schmidt. The Steinberg bros also we're alright to coach too

    Quote Originally Posted by cr4zybe4utifu1 View Post
    Do you have any memorable coaching moments?
    Many. Favorite thing is that moment in a session when a client "gets it." Although I'm not 100% at that time that they're mental game will be fundamentally different from that point forward, I suspect that it will - as do they and it's pretty damn cool.


    Quote Originally Posted by cr4zybe4utifu1 View Post
    What exactly is counseling psychology?
    I'm assuming your wondering about my degree. Basically it's the educational and practical experience needed to be capable of doing one-one, group, or family therapy or counseling. Clinical psychology is another type of degree, but it's a bit more research based, in terms of education. I wanted more practical. Did I answer what you were asking?
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  26. #101
    Quote Originally Posted by Numbr2intheWorld View Post
    Just wanted to mention that ftrs own Danny Steinberg has a two page section in Jared's new book.

    - Max
    Hey Max!

    And a great section it turned out to be. Basically ties the theory about the zone all together and includes stuff from his WSOPE final table.


    Quote Originally Posted by Numbr2intheWorld View Post
    And also that you should get TMGoP 2 on audio book cause Jared's voice is better than Barry Whites
    Lol, but I can't quite score like Barry White. Actually TMGP2 isn't on audio yet...but I think I'll be laying the tracks down in Vegas during the WSOP. Hopefully the dry air doesn't f with my pipes.
    Jared Tender - Mental Game Coach & Author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 and 2
  27. #102
    Hey Jared,

    Didn't quote the post but I saw you post about that Mike Matusow suggested Hellmuth try adderall with poker and you mentioned it may not be a good idea. Will you go more in depth in your opinion about ADD medication? It seems like everyone in mental type industries are trying it to boost their success and some people are convinced its a performance enhancing drug.
    Check out the new blog!!!
  28. #103
    I love the cover of the twilight zone as your intro
    Check out the new blog!!!
  29. #104
    Quote Originally Posted by Fix View Post
    Hi Jared,

    Just picked up your first book and if you dont mind I am gonna type some stuff out here as an exercise. And if you have any comments on the below I'd appreciate.

    I can lose pots for a lot of money and smile and just not care as I realize that's just a part of poker. And unless 5 happen in a row and my bankroll takes a huge swing it wont really affect my emotional level to any serious degree. This has been achieved thru a lot of experience and not playing significantly out of my bankroll.

    Recently a situation happened that got my emotion levels higher then they should be. As you note tilt is not sudden its a gradual process so I would like to explain the lead up to my heightened level of emotions---

    First scenario: I opened MP, bunch of callers, kid squeezes, I call being deep after almost considering 4betting, someone behind me who originally called repops we all fold. (note: surprise squeezer was doing this light)
    how i felt: was annoyed putting so much $$ into pot and not even getting to see a flop. slight tilt. I almost 4bet myself thinking he was squeezing light, but didnt and then someone behind me (who I am friends with) later told me they repopped it up light cuz they thought the squeezer was light. Had I made the right play, it would have been much better and as played this was the worst result I could of asked for.

    injecting logic: There are 2 issues at work that I see 1) not going with your read/making a mistake and 2) being annoyed that someone squeezed light. (getting super annoyed with how the action goes down --usually stemming from a player doing something that doesn't fit my criteria).

    Logic---
    1) mistakes gonna happen, sometimes out of the blue, especially as you play more and more poker going without mistakes is not possible. Make note and learn from it. You need to learn to deal with mistakes and dismiss them without letting them bother your emotional levels to much (see section in book on why perfectionism is impossible).

    2) Why cant a player choose to play however he wants and why does it have to fit your criteria? Stop being self entitled and so illogical! Occasionally hands like this going to happen and ideally they shouldn't trigger your emotions at all if you want to truly master the mental game.

    Second scenario: I open CO, SB calls and same player squezes BB light and c/fs a flop . I end up winning an inflated pot thanks to the BB against the SB.

    how i felt: indifferent/slightly happy as I won the pot but just thinking wtf this kid is 3betting in my head almost everytime I open.

    fix: Although my emotions weren't changed, its pretty funny that I violate rule #2 once again. Thinking a player isn't entitled to take whatever option he wants in poker and even when I win profit from his mistakes I still think he isn't wise for choosing to target me like this in a live setting (as I am not the fish) but the fact is he can do whatever he wants and it shouldn't bother me one bit. As when I get position on him (being a much more experienced player then him can make his life just as much more hell once I get position on him). But the fact I want to get position on him and just own the shit out of him in future sessions might show my competitive drive (which I think is needed) or might show a leak in taking shit to personal. What do you think?

    So when someone is 3betting me a lot IP in a live setting its a clear leak that I need to work on. I know some adjustments that I can make and hands that I can/cant defend but I more need to focus on my emotional tolerance for this. For some reason it really bothers me when I am going to constantly face light 3bets IP against light ranges.I've read sameoulus quote, and I think i just need to constantly monitor my emotions with this spot and examine it at a later time and keep injecting logic.

    Third scenario: I open utg, he squeezes me in MP. I play back at him postflop. As for my post session analysis I am fine with cr flop light (was better for my range, and I think hes on a short bankroll) but should of c/f the specific turn card that came (okay to cr flop and barrel 90% turns but not this specific one). He ends up winning big pot with a rather speculative hand that he 3 blled.

    how i felt: So overall during this time, I am thinking why is he 3betting me with this shit from these positions. Does he not realize I am better then him and I can make his life hell if he wants to really play me like this next time I am at the table. How dare he!!! Also I am very hard on myself for making a mistake and betting turn. 'I shouldnt of bet the turn, I therefore lost $XXX, do you know what I could of bought with XXX had I just played better.'

    logic--- same as first one. 1) Mistakes going to happen, learn from them. 2) People can play however they want.

    In a later session I see this player lose a lot and play bad, so its awakening to realize the money he wins he will most likely give it back. Do not be self entitled and do not think you can win every session because that's why poker is poker.

    Lots of mental game leaks above . Did not realize it was soooo long, but any comments/advice you have on how I am approaching the mental side and my new journey to improve it.
    Jared sent us a video reply for this one:

  30. #105
    Quote Originally Posted by sexytom View Post
    /or learning to spot the subtleties of tilt and mental game degradation?


    I was multi-tabling 6m at the time, and was looking up the myriad of notes I had taken from TMGOP1, (thanx pascal )
    I wanted to add a bit more to maybe clarify or expand upon my question. The game is challenging in that new or unexpected variables arise almost daily, the more I learn the more i realize how much I still have yet to learn, i'll call it the rabbit hole theory .
    This is the back-story of the question
    Video reply from Jared:

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