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Well, I don't know for sure either.
But, I can sort of understand the female perspective on it. First, men are often pretty aggressive sexually. Part of that is the fault of our culture which has an archetype of a man relentlessly chasing a woman until she finally gives in. It doesn't work that way in real life. A woman who likes you doesn't run away. IRL, it's more like man chases woman until either he gives up or she gets a restraining order. But a lot of men act like that strategy is supposed to work and get pissed when it doesn't.
Second, a woman coming forward to report abuse is generally not getting praise heaped on her. If anything it's the opposite. If it goes to trial,the standard defense is 'she's lying' or 'she was asking for it wearing those high heels and having a drink alone in a bar'. Which, if she's actually a victim, is pretty degrading treatment. So I think a fair number of women who have been abused are quiet about it because it's just not worth the ordeal to speak up. And when they see others speaking up, they get the courage to speak up too. It's easier now because of that, rather than being a voice in the wilderness so to speak.
Third, men can protect themselves from unwanted claims in certain ways. Not initiating physical contact is a pretty simple rule to follow with strangers, and on dates not being pushy with physical contact is another one. Fact is, if some woman wants to make up a story about you it's going to happen even if you're a perfect gentleman. But I think it's generally rare for that to happen because it has such serious consequences for the man. I mean you could also accuse someone of robbing a bank if you didn't like them and wanted to make them suffer, but not many people are that wicked.
So overall, I'm inclined to believe most of these women.
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