I need a new stategy!! help

I need other people's help that have already experienced this.

here is the problem. THE GIRLFRIEND. she is fed up with me playing, talking and thinking poker all the time. I need a new stategy to overcome this and balance the two. (letting her go is not an option here, sorry loll )

any suggestions for me from people that have had this kind of problem or do I have a problem lol
thanks
later

lol; sounds like my woman.

You need to sit her down and ask or tell her that your not going to give up poker. When you have designated time to be with her dont play poker dont talk about it. Only time I ever talk about poker is when I win.

Do you live with her? If so dude I am sorry. I would only play when she is not there.

You just going to have to sit her down and talk to her. If she doesnt agree well then you might have to

PIITB!

I also have a girlfriend of 2 years....My suggestion would be to stop playing poker because your not gonna change here mind.... Well first let me ask are you even winning at poker? If your losing than just stop.

Make more money playing poker. You do that and she won't care.

If you're not making enough, you're screwed, bro. You're either going to have to scale it back or she's going to be on your ass all of the time. Since finding a new girl isn't an option, I'd say that you need to talk to her about it. You could set up rules for when and how much you play. I think that is total B.S., but that may be something you've gotta do.

My GF and I live together and she doesn't mind me playing poker at all. It helps that I win more than I lose. Even if I lost money all the time, I still think she'd still be for me playing because it's something that I truly love. What's cool now is that she's actually getting into it, on some small level, just because I'm into it. So basically, my girlfriend is cool like that, sorry that your's isn't.

One other thing. My girlfriend watches all of those horrible home and beauty makeover shows (you know the ones I'm talking about, Trading Spaces, Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, etc, etc). I give her some flack about those, but she LOVES those shows so I let her watch them. While she's doing that, I'm usually online playing poker. She can't complain to me about poker if she's watching that crap on TV, and she knows this.

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PIITB if she doesnt listen!!!


good advise though rip.

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Put It In The Butt?



maybe?

My fiance is the same way as Ultimate's. Unfortunately when she watches those shows she gets I ideas and I lose my weekends. LOL

My brother and I play all time so she started getting into it. She even wanted to start having a weekly game at our house. Now she starting to use the terminology and talking odds and percentages. We even watch "Tilt" together.

SO I guess my advice would be to talk to her and tell how much you like it, and maybe she would get into it to, although, that make make the problem worse. LOL

Originally Posted by Ultimate George

Put It In The Butt?



maybe?

yes sir the teacher is correct...

that solves all problems

It astonishes me how many people still frown upon me playing poker even with all the publicity its received recently.

+5 points for me.

Originally Posted by Ultimate George

+5 points for me.

You are one bad ass Mofo

I've got the same problem... wife wants more attention. I can't get in a SnG/MTT unless she's gone for the night or occupied with studying. I have been staying with ring games recently so I can hop out when it is needed for emergency quality time.

In addition to what the guys have said above, I can suggest not talking about poker when you are with her. Try and make it more about her. I could see her feeling like second string if she has to drag you away from poker to spend time with her and then all you talk about is poker.

- Dr. sed

I dont see why you guys would talk to your girlfriends of wives about poker when your not playing poker....

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Everyone has the same problem, dude. Whether its poker or sports or whatever.

Now I'm special case. I have a radically obsessive personality. I completely lack the abiltiy to do anything half-assed. Which is to say when I decided I liked Hold 'Em, I went straight to the bookstore. I started tracking down sites like this one. Playing small limits probably 250+ hands per day (not multi-tabling, so several hours/day). And was taking DETAILED notes on my common opponents. I obsess about crap I enjoy, like poker.

Prior to that, it was pool (still is, fool!). All I wanted to do was kick ass at pool. Books...going out...playing tournaments...joining several leagues...eventually building an addition on the house and buying a pool table. Get it. I'm a freak. But guess what-- I KICK ASS AT POOL.

And I intend to kick ass at poker--do you doubt me?

You gotta set limits. And make sure you obsess about the lady too (you said there's no going around it, eh). You can talk to her, like the others said. But more importantly, you gotta make sure she knows poker's not more important than she is. C'mon, you know it's not. Do whatever to make sure she knows it, and she should respect your poker hobby.

I've got a wife who understands but is not exactly jumping for joy every time she comes by and I'm playing.

You might explain to her that
-This is a hobby for you (unless you're trying to go pro, in which case disregard all this 'cause you've got a World Of Trouble)
-Like all hobbies, you enjoy spending time on it but are willing to limit yourself because you also enjoy spending time with her
-Unlike most hobbies, this one brings money IN (assuming it does for you) and she's one of the beneficiaries

You might also show her some results if she's skeptical. Make one of these:


Last: you said she's fed up with you talking, thinking, playing poker "all the time". Quite right. This is off balance, hints of obsession, and is bad for your play. You need other interests, and other responsibilities.

Originally Posted by ilikeaces86

I also have a girlfriend of 2 years....My suggestion would be to stop playing poker because your not gonna change here mind.... Well first let me ask are you even winning at poker? If your losing than just stop.

to answer your question yes I am a winning player, and I have no plan on stopping anytime soon.

we've just started to discuss about it (about 1h ago actully) and I'm sure I'll figure out something.

I'll go through my check list of things to do and figure it out.
1 -> no more talking about poker to her
2 -> PIITB, check and done (didn't help but still with me loll)
3 -> waste a couple of hours watching trading spaces and other shows of that nature
4 -> buy her stuff with poker money(hey wait a minute, the couch, her car, suppers etc..) humm points for me!!
5 -> come up with a poker schedual
I really didn't think that it would come down to this....oh well, I'll just have to suck it up, cause she is worth it though

by the way glad you got a laugh out of this post Ripptyde and hello madame Ripptyde

later

What's worse:
1. a girlfriend/wife that complains you play poker
or
2. one who actually plays with your account and your winnings and ignores your advice.

I'm faced with #2.

Then again, I haven't tried the PIITB strategy.

Originally Posted by r8ed

What's worse:
1. a girlfriend/wife that complains you play poker
or
2. one who actually plays with your account and your winnings and ignores your advice.

I'm faced with #2.

Make her get her own damn account. That's messed up man.

Originally Posted by r8ed

Then again, I haven't tried the PIITB strategy.

Proceed with caution. If you PIITB and she doesn't like it (which is very possible) she might *really* mess with your account.

I was thinking of setting up a sting operation where I call a friend when she is playing my account. He'll join her table and I'll tell him via text message what cards she has so he can win my money before somebody else does. I'll split it with him. At least I'll be able to reclaim 50%.

A genius is me.

Originally Posted by Ripptyde

We actually agreed that I am only going to play poker on certain days of the week. ex: I get to play Mon/Wed/Fri and Sunday and the other 3 days are for her...ie: dinner out, movies, plays , dancing etc.

See, you've got to balance the poker nights and the "poke her" nights. Either way, your pocket rockets will get action from queens in the hole.

It had to be said.

Originally Posted by r8ed

I was thinking of setting up a sting operation where I call a friend when she is playing my account. He'll join her table and I'll tell him via text message what cards she has so he can win my money before somebody else does. I'll split it with him. At least I'll be able to reclaim 50%.

A genius is me.

I hope you're kidding. If you are, funny-haha.

If not, well...I'm not going to rip you over it, but don't be surprised it others do. Collusion = not cool.

Collusion is very not cool, but well, he's stealing his own money.
Can you steal your own money? I don't think you can.

I finally got my girlfriend to watch it on tv with me, and american choppers but thats another story. But yeah, there's a tenative schedule. If she calls i tell her im in a game and ill call her on breaks or when my session is over.

She's cool about it. She even plays one of my home games with me once in awhile. It's cute.

I also buy her a flower for almost every winning week/tourny or something like that. She likes that one alot.

*edit- actually the info could theoretically help your friend against others in the hand so i guess that wouldnt be cool.

If his girlfriend played HU against his friend, that'd be one thing.

But they'd probably be playing in a full-ring game. His friend would have information about another player's hand, and that would be unfair to the other players. That my friend is collusion, no matter how you slice and dice it.

Like I said, hopefully he's kidding.

holier than thou

This thread has been a medium for my epiphany.

I do not want to get married.

I g2g to a No Ma'am meeting now...

Originally Posted by Triptanes

This thread has been a medium for my epiphany.

I do not want to get married.

I g2g to a No Ma'am meeting now...

but trip, you have to admit that a good looking girl playing poker is DAMN SEXY

:
: <- Drool!!!! loll
:

2 -> PIITB, check and done (didn't help but still with me loll)

I now recommend the donkey punch. Make her reconize ya!!!

Proceed with caution. If you PIITB and she doesn't like it (which is very possible) she might *really* mess with your account.

This is why you start off with the SHOCKER!!!

the SHOCKER = 1 in the stink, 2 in the pink??

the SHOCKER = 1 in the stink, 2 in the pink??

Originally Posted by Ultimate George

If his girlfriend played HU against his friend, that'd be one thing.

But they'd probably be playing in a full-ring game. His friend would have information about another player's hand, and that would be unfair to the other players. That my friend is collusion, no matter how you slice and dice it.

Like I said, hopefully he's kidding.

Collusions BAD umm kkkk

ilikeaces86, you don't think collusions bad?
From what I've read from you you seem like a guy who plays solid poker and I'm sure you wouldn't want to be "colluded"....
I'm not sure however that "colluded" is a real word....

Originally Posted by DrumzCT

ilikeaces86, you don't think collusions bad?
From what I've read from you you seem like a guy who plays solid poker and I'm sure you wouldn't want to be "colluded"....
I'm not sure however that "colluded" is a real word....

I think "colluded against" would be the proper term.

Ahhh, "colluded against". Sounds much better thanks.

Um...that was a total joke. Don't get carried away. You think anyone would even be able to pull that off or care that much to even try?

I didn't think you were serious. Was just saying for arguments sake.

Originally Posted by res1cue

the SHOCKER = 1 in the stink, 2 in the pink??

you are correct sir. If she lets out a scream and cusses you out you have done well my friend.

Originally Posted by LeFou

I've got a wife who understands but is not exactly jumping for joy every time she comes by and I'm playing.

You might explain to her that
-This is a hobby for you (unless you're trying to go pro, in which case disregard all this 'cause you've got a World Of Trouble)
-Like all hobbies, you enjoy spending time on it but are willing to limit yourself because you also enjoy spending time with her
-Unlike most hobbies, this one brings money IN (assuming it does for you) and she's one of the beneficiaries

You might also show her some results if she's skeptical. Make one of these:


Last: you said she's fed up with you talking, thinking, playing poker "all the time". Quite right. This is off balance, hints of obsession, and is bad for your play. You need other interests, and other responsibilities.

"make one of these" lololol

"Just look at the chart honey!"

Make her really like it. Add a line WWWWWAAAAAAYYYY up there that says "diamond tennis bracelet" or whatever sparkly crap she wants...

- sed

Originally Posted by sed

Make her really like it. Add a line WWWWWAAAAAAYYYY up there that says "diamond tennis bracelet" or whatever sparkly crap she wants...

- sed

And then she will ask you weekly where is my bracelet you bastard?


hrmm women.....

Originally Posted by DrumzCT

ilikeaces86, you don't think collusions bad?
From what I've read from you you seem like a guy who plays solid poker and I'm sure you wouldn't want to be "colluded"....
I'm not sure however that "colluded" is a real word....

I was trying to reference the words of the counselor on south park with the mmm kkk but I guess no one got it

but trip, you have to admit that a good looking girl playing poker is DAMN SEXY

:

I played a home-tournament with a female participant the weekend before last.

When I put her all in, she says, "I'll show ya my tits if you fold em!"

"Honey, it's gonna take more than top pair to take this down".
8-)

I was trying to reference the words of the counselor on south park with the mmm kkk but I guess no one got it

Ahhhhhh. Doesn't have the same affect typed out i guess.

jokes, seriousness and sarcasm are harder to determine online.

My humble apologies.

I have a radically obsessive personality. I completely lack the abiltiy to do anything half-assed.

Hehe, I’m the same way.

I don’t do have things I’m “A little bit into” … I eat, breath, and think about “It” most the time.

It's not easy to balance time between family, work, and yourself.

If she is someone you want to stay with, and your thinking with something above the waist then it probably isn’t "poker" that she has a problem with, but instead it's how much of your "us" time poker is taking up.

Some little things to think of: (no idea if they apply to you)

When you come home from work do you:
a) Run to the computer, log on, and start playing.
Or
b) Run to her, give her a hug, kiss, and "I love you", and then 30-60 min later head to play.

When she talks to you when you’re playing do you:
a) Use a lot of "Huh? What was that?, ect" while looking at the screen.
Or
b) Look at her, pay attention, and ignore (mostly) the poker.

When she goes to bed do you:
a) Sit playing poker for another hour (or 10)
Or
b) Go to bed with her. (Not talking about sex here )

99% of the time when someone complains like that the problem isn’t really what she is complaining about (poker in this case), but instead about a side affect (taking you away from here for hours and hours)

It's easy to make someone feel like they are playing second fiddle to a game.

Don’t fall into that trap.

Tell her you make more money playing poker than you do spending time with her.
This works even you loose at poker if shes like every other women.

Tell her you make more money playing poker than you do spending time with her.
This works even you loose at poker if shes like every other women.

LOL

so very true =)

untill you get married anyway

Yea, thats a ways off, but I'v blown a wad or two on chicks.

And by wad, I dont mean (edited by Moderator :P )..... I mean money.

Originally Posted by EasyT

but trip, you have to admit that a good looking girl playing poker is DAMN SEXY

:

I played a home-tournament with a female participant the weekend before last.

When I put her all in, she says, "I'll show ya my tits if you fold em!"

"Honey, it's gonna take more than top pair to take this down".
8-)

you so folded right?

I hate when the bitches wear a low cut bottom shirt, i eyes are forever at the tig o bitties.

Originally Posted by Corey

I hate when the bitches wear a low cut bottom shirt, i eyes are forever at the tig o bitties.

I never would have pegged you as a boob man corey.

Learn something new every day.

I gotta say, my wife's awesome. She drinks beer. Watches football and wrestling. Enjoys and halfway understands poker... and doesn't nag me about any of those things.

Now that I mention it, she's just about a buzzcut and flannel shirt away from becoming a lesbian...

Originally Posted by Corey

Originally Posted by sed

Make her really like it. Add a line WWWWWAAAAAAYYYY up there that says "diamond tennis bracelet" or whatever sparkly crap she wants...

- sed

And then she will ask you weekly where is my bracelet you bastard?


hrmm women.....

then you say.... "see honey its getting there... I should play more poker. Call you parents and tell them they can't come next week."

- sed

Originally Posted by ilikeaces86

I also have a girlfriend of 2 years....My suggestion would be to stop playing poker because your not gonna change here mind.... Well first let me ask are you even winning at poker? If your losing than just stop.

QFT

Originally Posted by Triptan3s

Originally Posted by ilikeaces86

I also have a girlfriend of 2 years....My suggestion would be to stop playing poker because your not gonna change here mind.... Well first let me ask are you even winning at poker? If your losing than just stop.

QFT

I don't understand. You dug this post out of the trenches from nearly a year ago and your incredible contribution to the conversation was a QFT?

Are you trying to achieve something?

Originally Posted by sejje

Originally Posted by Triptan3s

Originally Posted by ilikeaces86

I also have a girlfriend of 2 years....My suggestion would be to stop playing poker because your not gonna change here mind.... Well first let me ask are you even winning at poker? If your losing than just stop.

QFT

I don't understand. You dug this post out of the trenches from nearly two years ago and your incredible contribution to the conversation was a QFT?

Are you trying to achieve something?

World domination, sir.

Originally Posted by Triptan3s

World domination, sir.

In that case, NH sir.

I was going to respond to this thread until i read the post from the two posters above^^^^^

you guys suck

The Ripptyde posts at the beginning deny you the "quality bump" title. too obvious, try again.

play once she goes to sleep.

Originally Posted by Chopper

play once she goes to sleep.

Lol, uhh... did you just read OP then immediately respond?

yup, because the parts of this thread i did read are completely useless.

we should all have better things to do.