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This is a long post, but IMO I admire your opinion so much I'd like an answer from you.
I think 99.9% of people in the world have absolutely horrible communication skills. I think .01% have decent and .001% are masters at it.
I have my own ideas about communication, I feel like I am decent but still have a lot to work on. However, people tend to clash with me about one POV I have about communication.
This is it: There is no situation where you need to get angry at an adult.
I'll phrase it another way.
To get through to another party, yelling at an adult is never necessary.
(I say adult because I'm not sure that you should never be stern with a kid)
Those are a little different but still are the same type of thing.
Everytime you ever "threaten" someone, and by threaten I mean a lot of things, whether it be telling them they are "wrong", threaten physical violence, yell, even being blunt in some circumstances, or many other things, they will immediately close off there communication channels. They become hurt because you have threatened them or demeaned them, and therefore close off to avoid any more pain. They express this in anger, non receptivity, and many other ways.
Many people come back with the argument "some people just have to be yelled at" or "how are you supposed to get your point through if you don't be blunt with them?" or "You can't just give up on your point, you won't get through to them!"
I don't really have a counterpoint to this. I understand there is a difference between strong behavior and "violent" behavior, and I believe master communicators use strong and non threatening behavior.
Another Philosophy I have is it takes two people to create a problem, not one. There can be Rakshasa's (A Hindu word meaning essentially road blocks that help ones evolution, often misinterpreted as "evil") along the way, but a master communicator can deal with these people.
People also tend to disagree with me on that.
Unfortunately for me, I have mastered the non threatening, but not the strong, and that gets me in a lot of trouble.
I'd like to believe my philosophy is true. Because if it is true, essentially what that means is that you are responsible for everything that ever goes on in your life. What are your thoughts on everything I just said?
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